A Tricky Parenting Secret

Do you want to know a tricky wee parenting secret? After three years of being a mama with a chronic illness, it’s just dawned on me…A Tricky Parenting Secret

It doesn’t take as much as you think to make a nice day for your kids.

Take a day recently as an example, I’m exhausted and my pain levels have been creeping up thanks to the baby waking up to six times a night. We went to church (with a baby and a three year old, it’s not so peaceful anymore) got frustrated with Nu not being quiet. We’re not crazy, we know he can’t sit quietly for just over an hour. But not yelling would be great.

Back at home, he was frustrating us, we were feeling cabin fever but also the weight of the incomplete housework (sorry our bathroom gets cleaned fortnightly now eek). Baby wasn’t playing ball with the napping. I was so tired I felt sick.

But we decided to go out. I wanted to be tired and sore out, instead of tired and sore at home. So we bundled into the car, drove half an hour, of which the baby slept 25 minutes (he’s a chronic catnapper) and visited a nice beach with a park. Parking was difficult, we got a 30 minute park, unbundled and faced the cold but beautiful scene. Nu happily rode his scooter up and down the beach, baby watched. On the way home we stopped for chocolate sundaes at a special chocolate cafe.

Nu was difficult to keep occupied as we waited for our order. He was loud on the drive home.

But at the end of the day, as I remembered how frustrating it was to wrangle Nu and the overtired baby and my own issues. While admitting I had a nice time. Nu remembered a great day. He had fun. He remembered the scooter, the birds, the swing, the chocolate sundaes. And our photos look so great.

All it took was a park and a treat. And I managed to give that to him (granted, with Husband’s help) despite pain levels of 5/10 and fatigue levels up the whop.

It is a timely reminder as I worry about my lack of energy and time. As I worry that I don’t have enough to split between two kids. But I do. I continually find reserves I didn’t know I had, for their sakes. And my little efforts to keep Nu occupied pay off.

On days where we’re housebound by baby and pain levels, Nu is just as happy to bake (he loves to stir!) and colour, an ride his digger (as long as I’m watching!) and snuggle while watching a movie.

So now my definition of a successful day is when I ask Nu, “did you have a nice day?” And he responds with an emphatic yes!

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Nu loved his chocolate sundae!

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New Name, Same Mission

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I have spent a long time thinking over the name of this blog. I don’t claim ownership over the Fibromyalgia. It is not mine. I will never say “my” before Fibromyalgia. However, when you name a blog, people need to know what it is about in order to find it.

So here it is, Melissa vs Fibromyalgia. This encapsulates my mission perfectly. I am fighting Fibromyalgia. Not just for myself, but for my two beautiful, busy boys and the love of my life (Husband).

This site is the compilation of my learning from my own journey and from my research.

Here’s a post that I wrote about: The Whole of Life Change Anniversary

Here’s where I write about What it’s Really Like to Live With Fibromyalgia

Here’s a recent post of what other bloggers and I have found to help with fighting Fibromyalgia: What Works: A Roundup

I am trying to come to terms with the idea that this could be a progressive illness. I cannot give up that nugget of hope that I will find some measure of relief one day.

Welcome to the continuation of my journey.

2014, Some Resolutions & Thank You

2014 has been an amazing year of truly terrifying highs and some dips.

On paper, it sounds like a magical year – in practice, with the fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue, it’s been tough.

The sort of tough that pays off.

I married the love of my life, met the joy of my life (my baby), made huge strides in my lifelong journey of self discovery, progressed in my career (amazingly) and made some (mostly mental) breakthroughs with my health.

There were some spectacularly hard moments, but man have I been happy.

As I look forward to 2015 and make a list of hopes and dreams I have been reflecting on everything in my life. I have been seeing the silver linings and taking the time to appreciate them.

My hope for 2015 is that I continue to grow, love and strive to succeed.
My goals are:
*to learn something
*to keep experimenting with my health
*to enjoy my husband and baby
*to arrange my business/work so that I maintain my work/life balance and have enough energy to be the mama I want to be

Pretty simple!

I also hope to keep writing this blog, I hope it helps people. My little dream is to produce an ebook of tips and encouragements for mamas journeying with fibro/chronic fatigue/related illness.

Thank you for reading. Thank you to everyone who shared comments. It’s so nice to connect with others who are in the fight.

Melissa x